I have been a bit wiped out by the last chemo session and allowed my mood to drop a little, not my proudest moment.
So last night after a delicious tea of salad nicoise made with French beans from the garden, no egg but freshly cooked tuna (I am salivating as I type!!) we decided to go out with Dude to change our state.
Looking across the fields, it appeared at one point that the weather was closing in from all sides however, it was not raining so we set forth.
When faced with this type of situation, it can be easy to shut down and become too internally focussed. For me, this is an unusual place to be because I am generally an external processer and I think out loud sharing each thought before it is properly formed or considered, which isn’t always helpful… but it is part of who I am. By getting outside and changing our state we freed up the channels of communication. As we walked, we talked about what was on our minds, sharing concerns and thoughts allowing the words to flow more easily in the cool breeze. As we chatted we felt our mood lift and out of the gloom a rainbow appeared.
The situation had not changed but the way we were looking at it had. Everyone has heard ‘a problem shared is a problem halved’, maybe sharing doesn’t always solve the problem but it certainly helps to put things into context and gain a better understanding of each other’s perspective. It reminded us to focus on the positives and embrace all the great things we have going for us, to keep our spirits high and make the most of every experience. Often you don’t even have to look for the rainbows, they’re right there waiting for you.
Time for a family photo!
Talk to you soon
Lots of love Mand xxx
Sorry you have been feeling rubbish this time. You have done so well to keep positive and smiling this far and you have almost finished the treatment. Everyone is impressed with the way you have coped since your diagnosis.
Hang on in there, you are surrounded by love and support.
Take care, love you lots.
Sorry you are having a tough time with this one, but I’m sure you are doing all the right things to get through it. I have to confess to a little chuckle at the ‘external processor’ comment, I remember having to get you to put up your hand so we knew you’d changed the subject……generally without actually stopping to breathe. Still lub ya loads xxx
Eyup Mand. Remember us two from Yorkshire who also spent some time living in Norfolk? Remember making us some luvly grub in your cafe in Matlock for the twins 70th birthday and the our leaving do? Just spent the afternoon with your mum, Pauline and Anne having a good old reminisce. Fabulous. Your mum hasn’t changed a bit has she? Well, looks better than ever actually!!! I’ve read your blog. What a bugger. Anyway, just to say we will be urging you on through all this. You can’t go far wrong with all that luvly grub from Phil. Hugs to you both from both of us. Pam and Alan.xxxxxxxxxxxxxx